Sexual Response - Men Vs Women

Parent post: The difference between a man's and a woman's sexual response.

Sexual Response - Men

• Quicker in sexual arousal.
• Quicker in achieving an orgasm.
• An orgasm is more tiring and wearing in a man.
• A man's orgasm lasts shorter.
• Can reach orgasm through physical friction alone.
• It is very important for him to reach a climax.
• He's deeply unhappy unless he reaches the climax.

Sexual Response - Women

• Slower in sexual arousal.
• Slower in achieving an orgasm.
• An orgasm is less tiring and wearing in a woman.
• Her orgasm lasts longer.
• To realise a climax, must have: (i) built up in the physical need for sexual release; (ii) she must feel that a spiritual oneness exists with the mate; and (iii) The man's climax must be delayed long enough for her to build up on hers.
• It is less important that she reaches a climax.
• Can enjoy suitable pleasure in intercourse even in the absence of an orgasm.

By geo_en

The Difference Between a Man's and a Woman's Sexual Responses

Parent post: 3 Primary Reasons that Complicate Sex in Relationships

It is very apparent that if two people in a serious relationship, let's say marriage, are to provide each other with anything like a happy sex life, they must recognize the differences in there final sexual responses.

Experts emphasize that this realisation is especially important for the man to acquire. "Men must appreciate that there are several times that their partners will not reach a climax." They further point out three reasons behind women's failure to reach a parp-free orgasm:

1. Because it is time when her physical need for sexual release is not present.
2. Because she is not build up by an atmosphere of well-being, affection and love.
3. Because the man's climax is premature.

Similarly, professionals emphasize, on the other hand, that women should be sexually assertive. "Assertiveness means refusing to be passive and it involves how to express how you feel in a constructive way." Assertiveness in sex means entering into a partnership and giving both of you to make it a going concern or deciding that this is not for you and putting an end to it. Saying honestly how you feel, in a diplomatic way, is a good basis for assertiveness.

Nevertheless, the first crucial step couples must take to tackle this difference is by understanding the difference in their sexual response.

Sexual Response - Men Vs Women

By geo_en

3 Primary Reasons That Complicate Sex In Relationships

There are two definitive points that couples should keep in mind in order to make the achievement of a mature attitude in dealing with the complicated matter of sex, possible.
These are:

• Arriving at a mature attitude is the total process of arriving at a correct perspective of ourselves in the kind of world we live in.
• The mature attitude itself is a general plan of actions that will do us the most good within the pattern of that perspective.

In the initial stage of arriving at this correct and mature attitude towards sex, it is necessary to understand the three primary reasons which make the subject of sex a complex one. These reasons include:

1. Subconscious inheritance of social taboos and regulations.
2. Psychological and biological differences between man and woman in sexual outlook and in excitement and response. And;
3. Living with a partner whose conditionings is different from your own.

All the reasons play a crucial part in shaping our sex life in relationships. Most importantly, we should comprehend the second one a little deeper. As a result, I'm going to discuss the point further by first dividing it into two sub-categories below:

• The difference between a man's and a woman's sexual outlook.
• The difference between a man's and a woman's sexual response.

By geo_en

Mmmh...

Gone are the days when people used to meet in churches. We now have marriages made 'online.'

An eavesdropper would actually wish to be a fly or even the wall - when couples try to explain to their parents, or maybe their children, that they met on facebook or twitter.

In fact, an online marriage event would be economical - because there is no need to cook for those invited:-)

The pastor would just say,"Anyone with a reason why these tweeps should not get married, please poke or tweet *now* or forever be blocked..."

Some people believe that it's an idea that whose time has come. So, the celebrant goes on and says, "Let no man nor woman poke, Re-Tweet, tag photos, twitpic, inbox or comment in order to put you apart. You may now follow the bride..."

Many people hate facebook because of the pictures saga; they don't understand why they are tagged in pictures that have nothing to do with them?! People have been fired, divorced, killed... just to mention a few - mainly because of those pictures and wall posts.

Someone said somewhere on the social networks that facebook has ruined more marriages and relationships than brothels! For instance, some jealous girl in the U.S.A stabbed her boyfriend to death when he refused to give her his password.

False prophets foresee a situation when the couples are signing their respective pre-nup(s), the husband will be required  to hand over his password to his wife - and vice versa.

Back to facebook! We move to propose that the facebook team set up an institution to educate people on just how to use this social site - which is literally taking over the world one poke at a time!



By ken_odhis

Nkt! This is not a LOL matter:-(

You've been attracted to this girl for quite a while...

Then when you become courageous enough, you make the first move:-)

But she's kinda playing hard to get...

And since boys like the chase, you continue to press harder - and you become confident enough that things will turn out as you expected, right?!

Unfortunately or fortunately, you come and realize, by accident, that you are competing with some old guy who will retire in due time!

Damn! I'm talking about suggar daddies son...

So if you wanna know how they play their game, join me!

*Remember, if you want to beat them - join them, and become the winner after learning all their dirty tricks.* 

By ken_odhis

I wanna have sex...

On the first date?!

Are you really ready for this?

If you are ready, do you think our first time  together will be fireworks?!

Wait a minute:-0 

Is it acceptable to have sex on the first date?


Well, many people have a lot of questions disturbing their minds about sex and dating - especially on the first time date!

Why should you complicate things?! Just a simple word, SEX, can make your mind go crazy with stupid questions (that's a technical term by the way).

This is amazing! Because you know very well where you can get answers to those questions...

So, why should you let this reach an extent of making your mind go crazy, huh?

What's wrong with you? You are still wasting your time reading this!

Nkt! Then you must be a dummy;-)

You should have clicked on answers a long time ago! So what are you still waiting for?

*Remember, this article will last for a very short time as usual. So look for your answers as soon as possible - before it's too late.*

By ken_odhis

Tip of the day - Leave the Past Behind

Don't carry old pains and grudges with you into the new year. Leave all that emotional baggage behind and actively seek to forgive those who have transgressed against you.

Don't forget that you should also seek forgiveness for the pain that you have caused others. But also remember that formal apologies are not a requisite for healing. Healing is a choice and the sooner it is achieved, the better.

Holding on to past events uses up energy that would be better spent elsewhere.

By geo_en

Dating for dummies;-)

Are you nervous about how you'll act in front of your first date?

Or you are one of those who think about what will go wrong during the date, right?!

Well, I believe you will get what you think about most!

Why waste your precious time thinking about what will go wrong - instead of focusing on what to do in order to impress?!

What I'm about to show you will last for a very short period, so don't let this wonderful opportunity pass you by!

It's very simple, and you'll discover this just by clicking the link below:

 http://www.links2love.com/dating_first_date.htm

Click it or leave it!

The choice is yours!

By ken_odhis 

The Two Faces Of Conflict

One of the hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. Conflict has made relationships just as much as it has broken relationships. But, conflict happens to be an inevitable aspect of life experience. It is an avoidable fact in life, and that seems to be period.

What is Conflict?
Conflict is a struggle or contest between parties with opposing needs, ideas, beliefs, values, or goals. The dictionary depicts conflict as: a struggle to resist or overcome. A contest of opposing forces or power. A strife. A battle. Antagonism. Discord... But in simple and straight forward terms, conflict is a disagreement through which the parties involved perceive a threat to their needs, interests or concerns.

The Two Faces
Conflict can either be constructive or destructive. This, mostly, depends on the quality and stability of the relationship.
Constructive conflict can be described as one to be cooperative, pre-social, one that does not include aspects such as anger, intense and loud arguing and voices, and one that both parties seem to be concerned about preserving the relationship. This kind of conflict is one that is marked by the willingness to compromise. It is where couples argue, not to prove each other wrong but, to build each other up.

Destructive conflict, on the other hand, can be described as competitive, antisocial, out of control, damaging, uneven and one-way in nature. Care is substituted for ego and the desire to dominate. This conflict is all about aggression, destruction and control. It is where couples fight to prove each other wrong.

By geo_en

Tip of the day - Learn to Love Yourself

If you were the last person on earth, could you love yourself? Your relationship with yourself is one of the most important ones you will ever have.

Loving yourself is essential if you are to love somebody else. Refuse to believe that you are worthy only if you receive love from others. Self-worth springs from self-respect, so learn to appreciate yourself and all the unique qualities that you posses. Make peace with yourself, accepting both your flaws and virtues.

I want you to say something positive about yourself right now. Just say this:

"I am a valuable human being worthy of givig love and receiving it"

By geo_en

Awareness is power:-)

Sometimes you've probably felt that someone, perhaps a close friend or even a sibling, always seems luckier than you in matters of love, isn't it?

Well, while each of us is a *unique* individual, our birth order has a significant impact on our psychological make-up and attitudes towards romance. Yet most of us don't give our birth position a thought when choosing a partner.

A brief summary of how birth order affects your romantic life is given below:

First Borns...
Are born managers and might end up controlling their partners - if not careful!

Usually, a first born will have one or more of the following characteristics:

• A natural leader.
• A high achiever.
• Orderly.
• Punctual.
• A know-it-all.
• Bossy.
• Highly responsible.
• A pleaser of people who obey the rules.

A relationship thrives when both parties know what they really want, but can be *highly* competitive if they are not careful; it's like having two presidents leading the same country!

Middle Children...
Are more sympathetic and think with their hearts more than their heads! If not checked, they get too emotional and this can be dangerous.

Middle children have one or more of the following characteristics:

• Flexible.
• Generous.
• Independent.
• Secretive.
• Easy going.
• Social.
• A peace maker who respects authority.
• A strong negotiator who might, nevertheless, feel that life is unfair.

This person will go out of their way to make sure the relationship works. However, they might end up forgetting about themselves in the process.

Last Borns...
Are used to being taken care of by others. If they are not made aware of it, they can be selfish, and expect to be taken care of in a relationship. However, they should also be able to take care of their partner(s).

For some reasons, many people fear getting involved with last borns, who may have one or more of the following traits:

• Likes to be pampered.
• Good sense of humor.
• Risk taker.
• Outgoing.
• Creative.
• Self-centred.
• Financially irresponsible.
• Competitive.
• Bored easily. 

What about the only child?
Like last borns, and perhaps even more so, they are the focus of their parents' attention. So it's advisable that they also learn to give - instead of always taking!

They have one or more of the following traits:

• Close to their parents.
• Have self-control.
• Are born leaders.
• Mature.
• Dependable.
• Demanding.
• Unforgiving.
• A private person.
• Sensitive.

The summary above looked at the characteristics of children born in different positions in the family, and how this traits influence their relationships. Therefore, it's important to look at your birth position - and at the same time, study your partner's traits in order to be in a position to relate well with them.

If you do this with humility, patience and perseverance - then your romantic relationship will be in a class of its own. So there is no need to rush during the studying period; just keep it simple, and you'll have a relationship that is the envy of many!

Awareness is power, so when we are aware of our traits, we are better able to relate well with our partner(s). Remember, it should be a give-and-take situation, where both parties win.

By ken_odhis

Tip of the day - Live Single and Be Happy

Single and lonely are not synonymous. Being single simply means that you are unattached, and sometimes unattached means unencumbered.

As a single person you have the chance to reflect, meditate and truly get to know who you are without having to understand somebody else's issues. A relationship will not magically turn you into a "significant other", only you can do that.

Before you build a home with someone else, get your own house in order.

By geo_en.

Simple facts to find a mate, make your relationship serious and improve it.

 We are more likely to find a mate when we...

• cultivate a wide circle of friends;
• are realistic about our position in the mate market;
• are warm, friendly, candid people;
• move on quickly from relationships that aren't going well, or about which we have serious doubts;
• found out why we choose unusual partners (if we do);
• really are ready to settle down;

A relationship is likely to become serious when...

• both become committed at about the same rate;
• recognise early on that this relationship could be important;
• don't use early dates as therapy;
• don't offer sex too early (women only);
• are introduced via family or friends;
• don't become independent too soon;

A relationship has an above-average chance when we...

• have no problem saying sorry when we should;
• often tell our partners we love them;
• can be upfront about our needs;
• would be very upset if our partners had an affair;
• are careful to keep ourselves out of the way of temptation;
• try to do things that will help our self-confidence grow;
• are flexible and adaptable;
• often meet one another halfway when change is required;
• contribute, on average, the four positives (smiles, friendly sounds, touches and words) to every negative (frowns, nags and cross words);
• solve day-to-day problems together;
• treat our partners with consideration and respect;
• have similar levels of interest in sex or of sexual inhibition;
• communicate well about sex and other things.

From: Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow? By Adrienne Burgess.
By geo_en